Imagining Our Future Together
The problem of social conditioning has been percolating in my mind for a several days now. Irene and I have been discussing it. It's been part of our Zoom group discussions the past couple of meetings and this morning I realized the importance of a certain part of my efforts with Irene to establish an enjoyable transdimensional relationship with her.
One of the main aspects of my interaction with Irene since shortly after her death was thinking about and planning our future. When you think about it, this activity is directly in contrast with the ongoing social conditioning that the dead are "gone." Our Pinterest boards about what kind of "afterlife" we want to experience, collecting imagery and ideas about where and how we want to live, what we want to do, what we want to have in our life, has been over-writing the conditioning that "she's gone" and that "we" have "ended." Before Pinterest, we used vision boards where you collect images out of magazines, or we would just write down and draw what we wanted or wanted to do. We would discuss these things often.
Just like we did before she crossed over, we have been actively engaged in focusing our thoughts on both enjoying the now but also on our future together. I understand now just how essential this is, because it quickly changed that sense of "it's over" to one of "it's still going on and we have a future together." In fact, more fully understanding and integrating the unlimited potential of what we can experience because our attention has become more focused beyond the apparent limitations of this world, we now both feel more free and more empowered and excited. Why? Because now we KNOW that we not only can have and experience and do whatever we can imagine, but we have an eternity to play with.
This is probably the single most effective reason my experience changed from bleak despair to excitement and enthusiasm: we were directly replacing the core idea that "she's gone" and "we're over" with something that directly contradicted those ideas by planning for and imagining our future together.
One of the main aspects of my interaction with Irene since shortly after her death was thinking about and planning our future. When you think about it, this activity is directly in contrast with the ongoing social conditioning that the dead are "gone." Our Pinterest boards about what kind of "afterlife" we want to experience, collecting imagery and ideas about where and how we want to live, what we want to do, what we want to have in our life, has been over-writing the conditioning that "she's gone" and that "we" have "ended." Before Pinterest, we used vision boards where you collect images out of magazines, or we would just write down and draw what we wanted or wanted to do. We would discuss these things often.
Just like we did before she crossed over, we have been actively engaged in focusing our thoughts on both enjoying the now but also on our future together. I understand now just how essential this is, because it quickly changed that sense of "it's over" to one of "it's still going on and we have a future together." In fact, more fully understanding and integrating the unlimited potential of what we can experience because our attention has become more focused beyond the apparent limitations of this world, we now both feel more free and more empowered and excited. Why? Because now we KNOW that we not only can have and experience and do whatever we can imagine, but we have an eternity to play with.
This is probably the single most effective reason my experience changed from bleak despair to excitement and enthusiasm: we were directly replacing the core idea that "she's gone" and "we're over" with something that directly contradicted those ideas by planning for and imagining our future together.
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