Love After Life

With the perspective of now over two years of developing and achieving a very fulfilling relationship with Irene, I have a better grip on what I was actually doing the whole time - and still am.  I understand it better because I have a better understanding of what is going on and how it all works - what the different levels of existence are and represent, how it all takes place in mind and - essentially - my external world is a reflection of my internal world. What I have been building is a fully developed  psychological  life with Irene, one where she and I share the same physical space psychologically - in other words, in our minds.  The only distinction between now and the way it was before she crossed over is that I have what is called "cognitive blindness" when it comes to interacting with her in my external-world experience.  Simply put, she doesn't register in my usual external physical senses, so we have been developing our connection and interaction...

For the past two weeks, Irene and I have been having a great time.  I've been able to release all worry about getting better physical clarity between us.  What we have right now is so good I'm not even concerned about it enough to "work" at it, other than by doing what we are currently doing, which is 100% satisfying, enjoyable and fun.  Talking with her during the day, making food for us and watching our shows, and doing visualizations with her, now feels like a completely normal and happy  continuation of our relationship.  I no more doubt that she is participating than I doubted it before she crossed over.  My psychology and body have totally acclimated to the new situation. Reflecting on this success, which to me is rather unbelievable, I've been able to better sort out what was the most helpful other than Irene's constant, loving help and attention, as well as any other people on the other side that may have been part of that help. Probably the mos...

We had more light shows and other phenomena at our last Love After Life Zoom Meeting, including what appeared to be my lights going dim and bright, dim and bright for a few seconds, which I didn't see here but was visible on the screen to everyone.  A medium in the room said it was Irene. I've been getting lots of clarification and simplification material via the channeling process, apparently in preparation for the upcoming Automatic Writing Zoom Room where I'm going to be the "featured speaker," after several people requested it.  What I find is how incredibly simple the experientialism framework is, how it can take the most complex and confusing aspects of afterlife information and explain it directly and easily. The only problem isn't the complexity - it's not complex at all. The problem is that the model challenges virtually all "normal" frames of reference and the core values of most experiential frameworks.  Because of the deep nature of s...

Had another dream of Irene and myself and woke up afterward at about 2:00 am ... after I told her to be sure I remember dreams of us even if she has to wake me up in the middle of the night. I laid back down after a couple of hours of work and after about 20 minutes I couldn't tell if my eyes were shut or not. I was seeing a horizon with trees silhouetted against a purple light source behind them. Behind that I could see what seemed to be the faint image of my pillows and headboard. This didn't feel at all like hypnagogia and it wasn't the same as astral sight.  I could open my eyes and shut them and it still didn't feel like I had them shut - it felt like they were wide open. On three separate occasions yesterday I did a full-lotus position meditation for 30 minutes. It is very easy and natural and after a couple of minutes I'm usually very relaxed and feel a vibration like being high on a drug (I guess - I've never actually been high on a drug).  In the latter...

As I wrote in an earlier blog, my daughter coming to live with me brought in some serious challenges for me to have to deal with mentally, and it went beyond the initial emotional vibration.  It felt like I was being pushed out of my current dimensional structure and it was rather unsettling.  The first thing I needed to do was take responsibility and take command instead of simply reacting and trying to sort out and deal with my reactions.  I assigned my daughter's issues to "spirit" - I could only do what I could do for her, which did not include solving her lifelong problems.  She had a safe place to live, food, etc.  The rest was up to her and her spirit team. Second, I began affirmations that all of this was ultimate in our (Irene's and my) benefit. Third, I knew that to keep on vibratory track with what Irene and I were doing, I'd have to keep doing full-lotus position meditation along with visualizations to keep from being emotionally dragged into my daug...

Just got finished talking to Irene for a while on the porch, and she brought some things to my attention so that I could put them together and share. The thing I did differently that led to that sweet dream yesterday was a kind of meditation (which I **needed** because of the emotions my daughter hit me with) and employed a very particular kind of visualization. There have been several threads of experience and information that have culminated in this method of having deeper experiences with Irene, dreams, and hopefully more astral projection experiences with her. As many of you know, I'm always looking to refine my technique in the hopes of being able to astral project with Irene at will. A lot of the techniques about how to astral project (well, all of them that I'm aware of) have a common thread: focusing on the textural reality of something as you are either trying to leave your body or as you are visualizing. It's also described as a way to stabilize your astral...

The other day one of my daughters came to stay with me for a while - wanted to move back to the area and get a job here. OMG it was like getting hit by an emotional tsunami. I had to actually go full-lotus meditation for about 30 minutes before I was right again. As we become more sensitive and tuned to the more subtle forms of communication between us and our crossed-over partners, this can have the unintended consequence of making us more open to those same forms of interaction with people still here. Keep in mind that some of the things your feel may not even be **your** emotions or sensations. There has been a long series of events that sort of culminated with that meditation yesterday, which included a conversation with Mary Beth, Irene's Ipad use some time ago and what she brought my attention to, comments Jurgen Ziewe said about astral projection and what a member said in the Zoom group yesterday about their increased capacity to visualize. There is a process tow...

First-Person Experiential Research: Using Hypnagogic States as Bridging Dimensions For Afterlife Interaction For the record, I have a theory of mind and multidimensional existence that I use as the foundation of my personal experimentation. It's "scientific" in the sense that my experimentation is designed along the lines of "If my concept of of mind works, then I should be able to do X and see positive, corresponding results." I've been doing hypnagogic state exploration to be with Irene for many months (if not over a year now), and that process (which begins with the prayer, intention and visualization) is what delivered the unexpected full astral projection visitation I had with her. That experience is what motivated me to pursue this particular line of investigation. However, those semi-conscious hypnagogic visualizations prior to the astral projection, and up until recently, seemed to be utterly random and never included Irene, and if I pulle...

Irene and I have been spending a LOT of time together focusing on my being able to see her, touch her, and hear her.  Yesterday we spent 4-5 hours total.  Last week we went three days like that and it culminated in an extremely serene, almost transcendent sensation of being together, without any trace of worries or doubt. Then family came in and other obligations and I found myself feeling a little numb and disconnected, but I went right back to it and felt totally reconnected very quickly.  I started mentally talking to Irene and envisioning her while family was here to try to maintain the connection. I've honestly been feeling like I'm going to have to tell my family to stay away unless I figure out how to keep their presence from disconnecting me from Irene.  So, I've been working some on techniques to solve that problem. What this has shown us is that it's all about attention. Yes people, myself included, use the terms "vibration" and "frequency"...

The problem of social conditioning has been percolating in my mind for a several days now.  Irene and I have been discussing it.  It's been part of our Zoom group discussions the past couple of meetings and this morning I realized the importance of a certain part of my efforts with Irene to establish an enjoyable transdimensional relationship with her. One of the main aspects of my interaction with Irene since shortly after her death was thinking about and planning our future.  When you think about it, this activity is directly in contrast with the ongoing social conditioning that the dead are "gone." Our Pinterest boards about what kind of "afterlife" we want to experience, collecting imagery and ideas about where and how we want to live, what we want to do, what we want to have in our life, has been over-writing the conditioning that "she's gone" and that "we" have "ended."  Before Pinterest, we used vision boards where you...

Irene has started doing physical things to the bed.  The other night when I sat on the edge of my side of the bed to take my boots off, I felt something Irene-size and weight plop onto the bed.  My dogs are both small Pekingese, and the heaviest is 17 lbs.  I had my eyes on both of them and it wasn't them. Yesterday I was laying down to do some visualization with Irene, which often ends up being a nap.  I had an important business teleconference meeting at noon, so I set the alarm by the bed at 11:40.  Every time I was drifting off to sleep, Irene bumped the bed. It was not lightly - it felt like she was standing by it, on her side, thumping it with her body like you might do to wake someone up. This happened five times, and each time it was right when I was drifting off to sleep.  I was glad for it to happen because it kept me conscious and I could continue with our visualization.  At about 11 I went ahead and got up to eat something and get ready for...

The synchronicities, major and minor, have been really coming on strong lately.  A lot of them have to do with the Love After Life Facebook and Zoom groups I'm involved with, weaving in their experiences and information.  For instance, when I got home from the store Monday, there was this enormous dragonfly with its wing caught in my screen door.  Apparently, it got caught by the wing when I left and the door swung shut. It was fine - it flew off when I opened it. It felt sufficiently weird that I posted it in the FB group.  I didn't feel particularly connected to it other than I really felt that it might be part of another synchronistic event chain. Immediately after I posted it one of the group members drew my attention to the Kevin Costner movie, Dragonfly .   How could I have forgotten that? Irene and I had watched that movie together, although it was many years ago.  It's all about how the main character is getting signs and synchronicities from ...

I blame Kim LaCapria for triggering the following, which is a channeled download. As always, I apologize for the authoritarian tone and pease, take what resonates and dismss the rest: I'll be using the term "mind" for the most part, but others can substitute "soul" our "spirit" if those terms better fit their perspective in the following post. Most people think of mind in terms of a distinct three-dimensional construct, probably because the culture deeply associates the mind with the physical brain.  Those of us involved in the afterlife community understand that the mind is not the brain, because it survives death and continues on - same personality, same memories, but not in any essential way equivalent to the physical brain.  Therefore, memories, thoughts, our personalities, ideas emotional connections do not represent physically located and physically caused phenomena. In my old Eastern Indian philosophy, the core essence of an individual was...

Over the past few days I've had one of the most incredible and game-changing series of synchronistic events I've experienced yet. It started with reading some thing from a couple of different sources that, for whatever reason, caused me to start thinking that maybe I was taking up too much of Irene's time by constantly talking to her and doing visualizations with her two or three times a day.  Looking back on it, that kind of doubt and thinking seems entirely out of my character. I went to be after that and did not do my usual visualizations in order to "free up" some of Irene's time.  It just sounds so ridiculous now, but the chain of events that followed shows that this was all set up to produce an effect - and what an effect!  When I woke up the next day I felt like crap - the worst I've felt in a long time.  Not grief, but actually sad. I literally have not felt sadness in almost a year now. So, Irene and I were talking about it, and she was telling me...

I just laid down for a visualization/transdimensional session. I was visualizing us having a conversation about our process and whether or not our current methods were good. I told her I'd like some confirmation on what we talked about during the visualization and my consciousness shifted to an semi-clear astral state; not as vivid as the fully clarified astral visitation but still not a dream or a visualization. She was right in front of me giving me an "okay" sign and then she leaned forward to kiss me back into my normal state of consciousness much like she did in the astral visitation. I'm VERY excited by this! It's SO nice to get a clear confirmation and encouragement in this way, so great for her to be able to tell me we are in sync and on course!

I want to make a post fully describing the technique that I believe actually led to my full astral visitation with Irene yesterday. I don't know how well it will work for others. If it resonates with you, maybe give it some consideration. It took over a year of trying different techniques, practice and effort, and the fact is that I cannot be completely sure that these techniques were the actual cause of my success. All I can do here is report to the best of my ability. The first few months after Irene crossed over, I tried several techniques I saw on how to "astral project", or leave your body and have an experience in the astral/heavenly worlds. None of them ever resonated with me. I also tried a lot of formal, lotus-position meditating, and while that put me in what I felt was a closer frequency vibration with Irene, and provided some really great visualizations, it only resonated with me to do that kind of thing sporadically. Based on several different points ...

Last night I couldn't get to sleep. I figured it was because it was so hot outside and kind of warm in the bedroom, so I was up until about midnight. I had tried about seven EVP contacts yesterday, with one just before I went to bed. As I've shared here and in the zoom group, our main focus has been being able to have some sort of visitation/contact, while I was conscious and aware, in the visualization-hypnagogic-dream and beyond states. That's been our goal for months now, as I've been affirming it, bringing it into my daily narration, and attempting it every time I lay down for a nap or to go to sleep. At about 3:00 a.m., one of my daughters called with some issue she was having. Again, I couldn't get back to sleep, so I stayed up talking to Irene and we wrote my earlier post together, after which I was exhausted and laid back down to do some "transdimensionalizing" with her. I started the usual way by visualizing that I had my arms wrapped a...

I've already written here about some of this, but the flood of synchronicities lately has me wanting to at least write some of them down. Some of it is so interwoven you really have to follow the tracks. A few weeks ago I made the decision to not do any more EVP attempts and I told Irene that if she wanted to do it let me know.  Last Friday before last there was a guy in our soul mate group who asked if he could try to use EVP to contact Irene.  He did so and she responded that she was there and we are soul mates.  Later that day she changed the channel to her favorite show and then, when I attempted to watch a recorded show, she made a different one come on (instead of the one I clicked) and that show started with a character talking to his dead wife (even though that scene had absolutely nothing to do with the rest of the show.) My blog post from May thirteenth describes an incredible synchronicity where an obscure but famous person from another country and been broug...

The past couple of days I've adhered to a new daily pattern that is the result of thinking about what I'd actually do once in the afterlife with Irene, and then adhering to a pattern of behavior now that includes those things or the closest approximation.  I realized that more and more of my daily, habitual patterns had become more about "waiting" to cross over, and that didn't seem to me to be a very positive subconscious pattern to fall into.  It doesn't involve anything drastic, just cutting back on certain enjoyments and activities I was engaging in beyond their "fulfillment" factor and adding in or increasing other activities that matched the idea of my afterlife desires.  So far, I feel even better and enjoy the new routine. Whether or not anything more comes of it will be something to keep an eye on, because I did this to deliberately more closely match my Earth pattern and vibration to what I want my afterlife to be like. So, I spend more t...

The other night I had a dream where I could fly.  I haven't had one of those in over 20 years.  This one was different in that I didn't do what I had always done before in order to fly; instead of a gliding, gravity-skirting kind of flying, I was powering my flight with energy that was coming from my hands and forearms, like I was some kind of superhero.  The energy made area around me shake as I took off.  During that dream I realized that things were not as they should be - people with names from my life did not look the same and I noticed, but I never quite put it together that I was dreaming. Yesterday I experienced a really astounding synchronicity.  The night before I was involved in a discussion where three very specific things came up: 1. A very specific, named individual in a foreign country that I had never heard of; 2. Thinking that person had been alive for over a decade only to find out they had been dead all that time; 3. Exploring alternate ...