Love After Life

With the perspective of now over two years of developing and achieving a very fulfilling relationship with Irene, I have a better grip on what I was actually doing the whole time - and still am.  I understand it better because I have a better understanding of what is going on and how it all works - what the different levels of existence are and represent, how it all takes place in mind and - essentially - my external world is a reflection of my internal world. What I have been building is a fully developed  psychological  life with Irene, one where she and I share the same physical space psychologically - in other words, in our minds.  The only distinction between now and the way it was before she crossed over is that I have what is called "cognitive blindness" when it comes to interacting with her in my external-world experience.  Simply put, she doesn't register in my usual external physical senses, so we have been developing our connection and interaction...

For the past month or so I've been experimenting with the concept that psychology (including the conscious, subconscious and unconscious) = experience of reality (perceptual, sensory, cognitive, emotional, reacitive). IOW, I've let go of the ideas that there are spiritual levels, different dimensions (that coming from the guy that basically coined the term "transdimensional relationship"), different energies & frequencies, planes of existence, etc., and have proceeded from t he perspective that all of existence is right here, right now, and that it is my own psychology that determines what I perceive and experience of that infinite potential. I'm not saying those other models are not valuable and effective, so please keep that in mind. I've also started writing about how this has affected my interaction with Irene, but frankly I'm just not sure it can be effectively translated due to the limitations of language and the conceptual baggage certain term...

For the past two weeks, Irene and I have been having a great time.  I've been able to release all worry about getting better physical clarity between us.  What we have right now is so good I'm not even concerned about it enough to "work" at it, other than by doing what we are currently doing, which is 100% satisfying, enjoyable and fun.  Talking with her during the day, making food for us and watching our shows, and doing visualizations with her, now feels like a completely normal and happy  continuation of our relationship.  I no more doubt that she is participating than I doubted it before she crossed over.  My psychology and body have totally acclimated to the new situation. Reflecting on this success, which to me is rather unbelievable, I've been able to better sort out what was the most helpful other than Irene's constant, loving help and attention, as well as any other people on the other side that may have been part of that help. Probably the mos...

Yesterday, in our Love After Life group, we were supporting one of our members who was having a hard time feeling like their partner was still with them.  All of a sudden, Irene wants us to go to the Sonic and get a cheeseburger - she's very excited about it, but first she wants me to walk the dogs in the back yard. Normally we only get Sonic cheeseburgers on anniversaries and special occasions.  I usually don't go in the back with the dogs because it's a long walk and one of them is a little lame, but Irene is all excited and her mood is infectious so I get excited. I carry Marley to the back and let them do their business. Amazing how excited and happy a dog gets when he can pee and poop in a new area. Anyway, we get done and I get in the truck to head to the Sonic. I normally don't go anywhere on weekends, but we're both excited for some reason and I start it up and turn on the radio. Literally, the first words I hear from the radio - and it's not ...

It may seem like this blog has been off-topic for the past few posts, but getting my mental house in order has been a significant step forward.  I realize now that there was a good reason I kept resisting things like EVP and various OBE techniques along with other methods and processes for increasing my contact with Irene. Initially, all those things just felt like too much work, and I started remembering that every time in my life I worked hard at making something happen, it wouldn't and I would just get frustrated.  Most everything that has come to me in life did not come because I worked at getting it; it just came and my contribution was not screwing it up or rejecting it. Irene, of course, was just delivered into my life by source.  All I had to do was say "no" to things I did not want that came into my path, and say "yes" to Irene, even though she represented a path that, to say the least, made me very uneasy. I knew the moment she started talking to m...

I think I've got it all boiled down to something very simple and remarkably effective, easy and enjoyable.  Logically, I don't see how this model and methodology can be reduced any further, made any simpler or enjoyable. 1.  It's all mental.   Everything takes place in what we might call universal mind . There are no "veils", no frequencies, no spiritual levels, no "other dimensions".  Where we are and what is going on around is us entirely psychological in nature. Internal p sychology (psyche) is experienced as external reality.  2. Intention identifies the psychological goal you want to experience.   Understand what your true goal is, not just how you dress it up.  Don't mistake the goal for that which you think should produce the goal.  Example: don't intend to win the lottery if your goal is actually to be happy.  Make sure you're intending your real goal. 3. Attention directs and drives experience towards what you put your atte...

A series of interesting events has led me to become fully invested in a further iteration of the "mental reality" framework that not only dispenses with so-called "spiritual levels", but also the idea of distinctly different, separated dimensions.  It is my view now that literally everything is right in front of us, around us, within us, and it is our cognitive consciousness that sorts out what we experience and what we do not. Irene is not in another dimension; she is literally right here with me. My inability to see her the way I used to is a psychological issue, nothing more. It is cognitive blindness: I cannot experience that which does not fit within this framework of my conscious psychology and its connected subconscious psyche.  It's all part of mental reality and how it works to organize experience from our own psyche. Irene and I were talking about this when someone posted a link, in the Love After Life group, about a movie coming out where a youn...