Love After Life

It's been a while since I've posted here. I recently found out there are still people finding their way to our website and FB group through this blog, so I wanted to at least write an update. I largely transitioned my writing about my experiences with Irene and our developing relationship over to the FB group and my blog on the website .  I "retired" from being an admin on the FB group and from hosting the weekly zoom groups to provide more time, energy and focus on my time with Irene.   For the past couple of years my life here and with Irene has become about as much a paradise as I can imagine. I fully retired a couple of months ago and we love it.  We go on astral adventures together almost every day and talk throughout the day, often making plans for our eternal lives together. I can't even begin to express how fun, exciting, and joyful this is for me.  I'm experiencing physical, emotional and psychological sensations no words can begin to describe.  In...

(Originally posted in the Love After Life group on July 12; backdating it here to the same day and editing to remove names of members:) I wanted this to work at least twice before I posted it here. Two times (not on consecutive nights) I've asked Irene to show me something memorable, unique when I'm with her so that I have a better chance of remembering it when I wake up. I also told her to go ahead and wake me up after she shows me so I have a better chance of remembering. The first time was last Saturday night because a member of our Love After Life FB group had such a great astral experience after she challenged her partner to help her with an experience. It just sort of popped in my head to ask Irene to try showing me something that would stick in my head. That night she showed me a piece of art she and someone else worked on for something she was writing. It was a drawing of what looked like a unique, cute cartoon creature that was a cross between a seahorse and a s...

Yesterday, in our Love After Life group, we were supporting one of our members who was having a hard time feeling like their partner was still with them.  All of a sudden, Irene wants us to go to the Sonic and get a cheeseburger - she's very excited about it, but first she wants me to walk the dogs in the back yard. Normally we only get Sonic cheeseburgers on anniversaries and special occasions.  I usually don't go in the back with the dogs because it's a long walk and one of them is a little lame, but Irene is all excited and her mood is infectious so I get excited. I carry Marley to the back and let them do their business. Amazing how excited and happy a dog gets when he can pee and poop in a new area. Anyway, we get done and I get in the truck to head to the Sonic. I normally don't go anywhere on weekends, but we're both excited for some reason and I start it up and turn on the radio. Literally, the first words I hear from the radio - and it's not ...

In the last Zoom meeting, the Love After Life group experienced unintelligible voices coming through multiple times when different individuals were speaking.  We keep everyone else muted and it was not an echo effect, and it didn't sound like any kind of feedback or glitchy sound.  It sounded like a sped-up voice coming through. The person speaking didn't hear it, but the rest of us could.  Our plan is to start recording these meetings in case any further phenomena occurs. We've been having more cross-over synchronicities, signs and experiences.  One includes a kind of "half-way" house our partners are apparently gathering in to help each other and help us in our efforts.  Mediums in our group have commented on this and it has shown up in dreams and visualizations.  Another common thread is some sort of community celebration on the other side.  As we share our experiences with each other, we have been conduits by which other members are given signs a...

I had a weird experience the past couple of days that coincided with a lot of information shared by members of the Love After Life group recently, and my own prior experiences, that has led me to adopt a slightly different paradigm about what I'm doing in working towards fuller transdimensional experiences and the goal of increased, full astral projection experiences with Irene. I'm consolidating it here in the case others find it helpful. One of the common themes of many experiences here is that they just sort of unexpectedly happen - whether we feel good at the time or bad, whether we are trying or not at the time, etc. They seem to occur without our knowledge of how to trigger them and whether or not, at the time, we are even trying to trigger them. My weird experience was this: my client called me and said that Firefox wasn't properly loading and displaying the company website I created via WIX (we transferred to WIX so that they can operate it and make changes e...

Irene has started making appearances in my hypnagogic experiences lately.  My perspective on this is that we are achieving progress on creating our transdimensional bridge.  She has validated this a couple of times and the information I get from our talks is often validated from other sources.  I've also been having new and increasing physical sensations when we sit and talk; a very pleasant tingling on my left side, where she sits.  When I affirm to her where and what I'm feeling, she'll touch another part of my body and I'll feel the same thing, which is a combination of a cool, physical tingling and an emotional sweetness. During our group meditation Saturday, my visualization with Irene on the group astral cruise liner suddenly became focused on the two of us in an area of the ship where there was live music and dancing, and we were slow-dancing to "Tennessee Whiskey" by Chris Stapleton . It was amazing and we were just locked into to it for several minute...

I will, at some point, explain in more depth that state change I wrote about in my last blog post. Irene's been using the chimes above the couch to "chime in" when we're talking.  I noticed this happening the other day, when we were sitting there talking and during one very lovely moment I heard a single chime tone. It happened the next day. I don't normally hear those chimes ringing - they are, after all, inside.  After I realized what was going on, I had forgotten about it and walked in an sat down.  Then I remembered the chimes and looked up, because I wondered if a draft was moving them to make them chime.  I looked up.  The chimes were perfectly still. I pointed at them and asked, is that you? The chimes immediately started moving - just barely, starting to spin a little bit. I've been watching the chimes more closely.  When the furnace kicks on, the feathers on the chime move quite a bit, but that wasn't what was going on the other day - the fe...

The Love After Life Facebook group had a Zoom meeting yesterday and in it Kim LaCapria brought up a point that got me to thinking more about grief.  Her point was that a transdimensional relationship is not really that much different from most relationships.  In most relationships, especially those that are last a while, we may spend only a small amount of time actually touching and talking with/to our partners.  The largest part of our happiness and sense of wholeness with our partner, while they are still living, is often just the knowledge that they are with us, a sense of them being present and in our lives. We may be in different rooms, or at work, one of us indoors and the other outside, one of us visiting family and friends, etc.  We also may not sleep all piled up or cuddled up on each other most of the time. So, a large portion of our day may probably doesn't consist of being in any kind of vocal, sight or physical contact. If our loved one went out of t...

The synchronicities, major and minor, have been really coming on strong lately.  A lot of them have to do with the Love After Life Facebook and Zoom groups I'm involved with, weaving in their experiences and information.  For instance, when I got home from the store Monday, there was this enormous dragonfly with its wing caught in my screen door.  Apparently, it got caught by the wing when I left and the door swung shut. It was fine - it flew off when I opened it. It felt sufficiently weird that I posted it in the FB group.  I didn't feel particularly connected to it other than I really felt that it might be part of another synchronistic event chain. Immediately after I posted it one of the group members drew my attention to the Kevin Costner movie, Dragonfly .   How could I have forgotten that? Irene and I had watched that movie together, although it was many years ago.  It's all about how the main character is getting signs and synchronicities from ...

I just laid down for a visualization/transdimensional session. I was visualizing us having a conversation about our process and whether or not our current methods were good. I told her I'd like some confirmation on what we talked about during the visualization and my consciousness shifted to an semi-clear astral state; not as vivid as the fully clarified astral visitation but still not a dream or a visualization. She was right in front of me giving me an "okay" sign and then she leaned forward to kiss me back into my normal state of consciousness much like she did in the astral visitation. I'm VERY excited by this! It's SO nice to get a clear confirmation and encouragement in this way, so great for her to be able to tell me we are in sync and on course!

My co-admin at the Facebook group Love After Life and co-host of the Zoom (video teleconferencing) group Mary Beth Spann Mank and I have been creating Love After Life Workshop videos.  We started this project because it is very difficult to schedule a convenient time for the people from around the world to meet up via the internet to go through the workshop we created to help people go through the process of creating a happy, fulfilling transdimensional relationship with our crossed-over soul-mates. I never really thought we'd get to the point where we are now, with 150 members of our Facebook group and weekly Zoom meetings with several group members in attendance every week. I had no idea there would be this many people who wanted to keep their relationship going after their partner's death.  We currently have a medium attending the Zoom meetings and she has been very beneficial to some members there, and she recently joined our FB group as she also has a crossed-over sweethe...

We we tried to record our first video - an introduction to the concept of having and developing transdimensional romantic relationships - for the Love After Life FB and Zoom group yesterday. The Zoom raw file wouldn't process, so we're going to have to try again this time using a different process or by using shorter clips.  If all goes well we're going to be creating more video resources for people who find themselves in this situation.  Mary Beth - the other host and admin - and I have decided we need to devote more time to the group since we now have about 150 members. The cooler weather has made a world of difference in my ability to do work.  Even though I wasn't feeling bad during the summer, it never fails to amaze me just how much difference cooler weather makes in my attitude and energy. I love it! Irene and I are still going strong and doing great.  Of course I've continued with my normal habits of talking to her, having mental time with her, putting o...

After posting in several FaceBook groups about how, in most ways, my relationship with Irene is better now than ever, others posted how they cannot imagine their transdimensional relationship ever possibly being better than having their soul-mate with them in this world. I also could not even begin to imagine that until it started happening, but here is something I deeply believe:  everyone's relationship, individual circumstances, history and purpose in this world is different and so cannot be compared or judged by any other.  Everyone is on their own journey and I don't see or sort such things hierarchically or along some linear path towards common goals or destinations.  Everyone has a unique story and perspective. That said, I would like to offer a more thorough explanation of our particular situation and the reasons why I say our relationship is "better than ever." When I first met Irene, my attraction to her was almost entirely mental.  Physically, she wa...

Today our book, Love After Life, is available on Amazon !  Many thanks to Cyrus Kirkpatrick for his help in facilitating this. Yesterday I had a long conversation on the back porch with my Mom, Dad and brother, Reed, all of whom have crossed over.  I expressed my great gratitude for what they contributed to my life and to my family.  I'm so blessed to have been surrounded by and raised by good people, who have contributed so much to my development mentally/spiritually and who just helped us out when we needed it.  Without them, I have no idea where I'd have wound up in this life. During our talks on the porch, Irene has been putting memories of us in my head of things I had forgotten.  She feels more comfortable doing it now that I'm at a place where I will not crash into grief and can experience those memories happily and joyfully. I have told her to feel free to do so and have given her free access to my mind and physical body.  That's one of the gre...

One of the things I've done repeatedly since Irene crossed over, and which I've talked about before on this blog, is visualizing us together, which always includes touching.  This sense of touch during the visualizations is getting better.  When you think about it, all sense of touch is generated in the mind.  In the physical world, nerve system impulses are translated into our sense of touch. In dreams, the sense of touch is just as real as in the physical world. So, in visualizations, the sense of touch can be increased.  I wonder how much?  Irene assures me it is her when I visualize us, and it is her I am touching and talking with.  It will be interesting to see how far this can go. I decided to reel my smoking back down to three cigarettes a day.  I had thought about telling Irene I would only cut down if she visited me in a dream and we had a good laugh about me just figuring out new things to blackmail her into dream visitations with. Cyrus ...

This weekend I spent a lot of time finishing up the editing on  my book, "Love After Life".  It should be posted here both on "The Book" tab and in links to Google Doc and PDF versions sometime this week.  Right now I'm putting in links to blog posts that correspond to various things I mention in the text of the book so that readers can see the full context of what I was going through at the time if they want. Yes, I realize I'm not posting every day like I used to.  Rest assured that I'm not losing interest in keeping the blog current, but rather this new schedule represents a new stage of the development of my relationship with Irene.  Some of my desire and even need to write here every day was out of a kind of fear that if I did not do so my attention to our efforts and dedication to her would begin to wane.  She is so woven into my daily life and thoughts, and my sense of connection to her is so good and fulfilling, that I no longer worry about tha...

I've had a couple more of those strong connection sensations today.  It is so sweet and transcendent - an emotion or sensation there is no word for.  I remember getting this sensation before and it was very confusing because it caused some sorrow at the same time, I remember writing here that I felt it was because it was Irene and her presence generated the sorrow of missing her. Now, this sensory, vibrational quality of her presence "touching" me, or going through me, isn't bringing up any sadness, just this very unique and comforting feeling that affects me throughout. I posted the rough draft of the book on the blog today so that people who come here looking for relief from their grief will at least be able to read how it happened for me. As I read back through the book, and in doing so referred back to some prior posts, I find so utterly unbelievable that I can really, actually feel this way.  It's like our relationship never stopped being this good - as...

I went to sleep last night thinking about sleep and how it is the perfect vehicle for astral traveling and projection. You are already going into a deep, relaxed state prone to altered forms of consciousness; you are in a perfectly relaxed position where your body is safe for hours to come; and I've read where you actually do astral travel almost every night to speak with your spirit guides - but you don't remember it.  Also, in my case, I've already had a couple of fully conscious vision events after falling asleep. This morning I woke up feeling great, happy, and like I was perfectly balanced.  I could feel the emotion and appreciation in me again.  It's perfectly normal to miss Irene; I don't want that feeling to disappear.  I like the feeling of anticipation and excited longing to see her, hear her and hold her, and my appreciation for when we are together, just like any time we were apart in life.  My angst and rebellion is gone about why I'm still here...

8:25 a.m. I just posted in the FB grief support group a message reflecting what I've been doing the past couple of days.  Part of that post was about my envisioning session last night where I envisioned myself visiting Irene. I wrote in the group that Irene had shown me our house over there and that nothing was ever lost or destroyed, that we could recreate anything from our life here to our home there. I wrote that she showed me some of what she had added to our home there from our life here.  I also wrote that she told me that we could pursue any of our heartfelt desires there - creative arts & crafts, learning, adventures, etc. When I was done writing the post I felt very good about it, but before I posted it I went to use the bathroom and asked Irene if she thought it was a good post and if she was okay with it.  I walked into the kitchen and saw a couple of things lying on the floor in front of the refrigerator; one was a colored piece of paper cut out in the ...