Love After Life

It's been a while since I've posted here. I recently found out there are still people finding their way to our website and FB group through this blog, so I wanted to at least write an update. I largely transitioned my writing about my experiences with Irene and our developing relationship over to the FB group and my blog on the website .  I "retired" from being an admin on the FB group and from hosting the weekly zoom groups to provide more time, energy and focus on my time with Irene.   For the past couple of years my life here and with Irene has become about as much a paradise as I can imagine. I fully retired a couple of months ago and we love it.  We go on astral adventures together almost every day and talk throughout the day, often making plans for our eternal lives together. I can't even begin to express how fun, exciting, and joyful this is for me.  I'm experiencing physical, emotional and psychological sensations no words can begin to describe.  In...

For the past few weeks Irene and I have been working on the concept of a kind of revolutionary afterlife perspective that goes hand in hand with stuff I've been channeling for decades. I believe we (Irene and I and other members of the Love After Life Facebook Zoom group) are creating, manifesting or finding a kind of reality that may be, in some sense, new - at least new for most people on Earth. We've talked about this some in the Zoom group. This new reality will hopefully move us (those who want to) out of what I consider the two main, thematic multi-dimensional realities that have to do with (1) never-ending, so-called "spiritual progress", and (2) justice/karma/reincarnation/good & evil. What Irene and I are interested in is a "happily ever after" existence mode after we are done here, one where we are not constantly told or subjected to the idea that we are not good enough or spiritual enough "as is," or that we have to endure some kind ...

This is part two of the channeled information I waded through the past week or two, concerning what we refer to as "spirit" and our connection to it. Again, I apologize for the authoritative tone and issue my usual caveat: accept what resonates, dismiss the rest. Our Connection to "Spirit" First, what is "spirit"?  The phrases used in much of the afterlife community reflects a certain history of thought which characterizes our transdimensional interactions in a particular perspective, as if our "normal" experiences in this physical space are somehow less "of spirit" than other kinds of interactions.  For example, we don't usually consider normal conversation to be as much "of spirit" as information coming to us from mediumship, automatic writing, channeling, using EVPs, etc. Note the normal characterization of such "spiritual" interactions as information coming from "non-physical" or "spirit,...

Please excuse the authoritarian style of writing.  When this stuff comes to me via channeling, I can either spend days trying to rephrase everything in editing or just offer the caveat: accept what resonates, ignore the rest. For most people, when they think of "imagination" they think of creating thoughts or imagery that is confined to being "in their head" - completely personal and unconnected to anything external, private thoughts that only exist in the confines of their physical brain. Thus, we have phrases like "only in your head" or "just your imagination", which trivializes imagination as something fun (or worrisome) but, for practical purposes, largely without any significant effect on the real world and on our real lives. To begin to understand the true power of imagination and its importance, we must first ask a very simple question: What is imagination? The short answer is: attention , sometimes accompanied by intention .  In...

Over the past few days I've had one of the most incredible and game-changing series of synchronistic events I've experienced yet. It started with reading some thing from a couple of different sources that, for whatever reason, caused me to start thinking that maybe I was taking up too much of Irene's time by constantly talking to her and doing visualizations with her two or three times a day.  Looking back on it, that kind of doubt and thinking seems entirely out of my character. I went to be after that and did not do my usual visualizations in order to "free up" some of Irene's time.  It just sounds so ridiculous now, but the chain of events that followed shows that this was all set up to produce an effect - and what an effect!  When I woke up the next day I felt like crap - the worst I've felt in a long time.  Not grief, but actually sad. I literally have not felt sadness in almost a year now. So, Irene and I were talking about it, and she was telling me...

My co-admin at the Facebook group Love After Life and co-host of the Zoom (video teleconferencing) group Mary Beth Spann Mank and I have been creating Love After Life Workshop videos.  We started this project because it is very difficult to schedule a convenient time for the people from around the world to meet up via the internet to go through the workshop we created to help people go through the process of creating a happy, fulfilling transdimensional relationship with our crossed-over soul-mates. I never really thought we'd get to the point where we are now, with 150 members of our Facebook group and weekly Zoom meetings with several group members in attendance every week. I had no idea there would be this many people who wanted to keep their relationship going after their partner's death.  We currently have a medium attending the Zoom meetings and she has been very beneficial to some members there, and she recently joined our FB group as she also has a crossed-over sweethe...

We we tried to record our first video - an introduction to the concept of having and developing transdimensional romantic relationships - for the Love After Life FB and Zoom group yesterday. The Zoom raw file wouldn't process, so we're going to have to try again this time using a different process or by using shorter clips.  If all goes well we're going to be creating more video resources for people who find themselves in this situation.  Mary Beth - the other host and admin - and I have decided we need to devote more time to the group since we now have about 150 members. The cooler weather has made a world of difference in my ability to do work.  Even though I wasn't feeling bad during the summer, it never fails to amaze me just how much difference cooler weather makes in my attitude and energy. I love it! Irene and I are still going strong and doing great.  Of course I've continued with my normal habits of talking to her, having mental time with her, putting o...

One of the things I've been thinking about since my astral visit with Irene is about how, when I found myself there, I didn't have to look for her, try to find where she was, etc. It was about 7:30 or 8:00 a.m. here, and when I flipped over to the astral she was right there - sitting beside me, and we were having the same conversation we were having before when I was lying in bed here. More than that - it was all perfectly normal and natural - like this is what we do all the time, the "normal" of our relationship, much like it was before she crossed over. She and I were just sitting on the couch next to each other, apparently watching TV and talking about stuff. It may not seem fantastic, but that's exactly what was so fantastic about it - it felt utterly ordinary to be there with her. So ordinary, in fact, I didn't even realize what had happened for several minutes. Often, people in this situation are worried and afraid that something big has changed in the r...

There are some really cool things I've come to know about the transdimensional situation Irene and I are in - why we chose to live this life, what we are doing now, and what it means for our future.  I don't claim that this applies to anyone else, so if it resonates, great, if it starts making you feel conflicted or upset, just stop reading and ignore it. Irene and I are eternally together.  We are perfectly whole together and painfully incomplete apart.  No one else will do for either of us.  I'd say we were fortunate to have understood and experienced this in our life, but luck didn't have anything to do with it.  We planned all of this before we came here, and we have been monitoring it the whole time. There was a time period after Irene crossed over that I didn't understand why we would do this - come here, forget everything, spend 30+ years apart, have all these challenges including pain, financial stress, all the countless distractions, and then go thr...

One of the first things I read when I started looking into afterlife information was that, while we can talk to each other in the Astral, the more common form of communication, especially between those who are close, is a form of telepathy and that we can "feel" other people, which makes it hard if not possible to deceive others (in the most commonly reported afterlife areas). However, I love my wife's voice, and so it kind of bothered me that we might not be talking to each other as much as we did here. I couldn't see how "telepathy" or heightened "feeling" could replace the sweet sound of her voice. I had some dreams with Irene the past few weeks where I could feel her emotions towards me. Although she did speak to me in some parts of the dreams, she also "emoted" to me as a way of communication. I could feel what she felt towards me, and I have to say, it was completely awesome. I've felt her send emoti...

I had a new experience with Irene the other day.  I'm not going to describe it since it was very personal and intimate, but what I will say is this: I got a taste of how making love feels in what we call "the afterlife." It was completely unexpected and overwhelming.  There is far more emotional sensation involved, of a much more vibrant quality, than anything we experienced in this world.  I'll leave it at that. What has had my attention lately is the coffee I set out for Irene every day.  Something to understand is that I make the coffee the exact same way every day, and the coffee sits in the same room in the exact same physical environment every day.  Same ceiling fan, same air conditioner, etc.  It sits on the same coaster at the same angle at the same location on the same coffee table.  Now, if the milk I use in her coffee is old, that affects the drawings that appear in it in a predictable way - they get smudgier.  In the beginning - th...

The past few days Irene has been changing up her coffee-drawing routine - some days she draws in it some days there's absolutely nothing - just a cup with uniform brown color without even a pale swirl.  The way I make her coffee has been absolutely the same each day, and the environmental factors have been the same.  The milk has come out of the same container. She's not been just getting my attention and reinforcing the fact that it is her that makes the drawings; noticing this has also helped move my thoughts and attention in a certain direction. Yesterday I came up with a new form of our memory-suppression game, where she wakes up in the afterlife with the memory awareness of having just crossed over from her illness, waking up in our bed in the astral to find me there with her.  This led me to think more about the whole memory-suppression concept, and I found a new way of visualizing the idea, but more importantly it made me realize that all individual consciousness...

In the past couple of days Irene has become pretty interactive beyond her usual scope.  She continues to draw in the coffee I set out for her, change the channels to her favorite shows and appear in my dreams, but now she's also interacting with others.  She started mentally communicating with a friend of mine (who has solid connections to the afterlife/spirit) while we were talking on the phone, sending a mental image I would understand for my friend to relay to me.  She moved a cup in my granddaughter's house to get her attention and the actually appeared as an orb right in front of her face, sending a warm and non-scary tingling throughout her - a great accomplishment since my granddaughter is usually freaked out by such things. Via the same combo of that friend and Irene's urging, I was also led to a documentary about the "Century of the Self" that had some really good information that mattered to me and an interview of Susanne Wilson.  This is unusual beca...

There's a side to my life now - the time I spend with Irene in Always, our Happy Place - that most other people in my life don't know about.  When I lie down to rest, take a nap or go to sleep, it's fun and exciting.  I have a whole world of fun, romantic, and interesting things to do with Irene, as well as us visualizing together more new things.  It's so great to be able to fall asleep visualizing us and having conversations, or just being together in whatever surroundings we want. It's fun to drift off into different meditative states while resting, keeping conscious and trying to "leave my body" or focus on various imagery that starts popping up, all while talking with Irene.  Sometimes I get a bit of a pleasant dream with her, other times I just wake up knowing we were together and I'm uncontainably happy.  My emotional range of experience the past couple of months has been from "normal" - which is still feels good - to "euphoric....

I think I'm going to start using Suzanne Geisemann's term "everlife" instead of "afterlife" because it incorporates this life as well as part of our eternal lives. This is, after all, just another form of experience in the infinite variety of experiences available to our eternal existence. The other day Irene and I were visualizing some new things in "Always" - our name for our private experience realm (not entirely private - we do plan on inviting others to visit).  A visualization of us popped in my head, the two of us in a couple's tube floating down a lazy water park-like "river" path, winding through our island, the warm sun on us and the view full of beautiful trees, plants, flowers, birds, and animals near the water.  It brought back the memory of when, as a child, my family went to the Ozarks and we tubed down the river there for a couple of miles. That was one of the best memories I have as a child, and I have quite a few....

It's amazing that I now categorize what are basically "normal" days as "blah" days.  Our experience has become so fantastic that a "normal" day feels like "blah".  Instead of putting a negative spin on it, I'm just going to call them "normal" days from now on. Yesterday was more of a "normal" day, but I recognized it for what it was - a "process" day. Hmm. Maybe I should call it that instead of "normal."  Abraham-Hicks says that times like that is when source is busily bringing our desires to us and doesn't require any input at the time, only our "allowing" acceptance of it as part of the process.  He/she says that times like that are good for sleeping, resting, or just relaxing, which I did by watching more TV than I usually do. I also took a nap, and when I woke up I swear I could hear our "Forever and For Always" song playing very, very subtly. I could barely make it o...

One of the things that came up the past few days in our visualizations for the new book was the bedroom in our castle, and one thing I noticed was that the bed was now different from our current king size bed - it was much bigger and round, and one of the aspects of the afterlife I describe in the book is how, in the presence of romantic love, the surroundings become more ornate and beautiful - including how wooden structures will self-carve beautiful, ornate designs in that situation. Another thing that has come up several times recently is the phrase "fairy tale," which several synchronistic events have used in relation to the castle we live in ( see yesterday's pos t).  Irene and I often thought our life together here on Earth was like a fairy tale come true, "the reality is better than the fantasy."   Irene is also a seahorse fanatic. A movie I watched at lunch yesterday was about a man trying to find the love of his life who had disappeared.  He...

The past couple of days I've had the most amazing realization.  It has to do with some stuff I haven't even written about here because I've been wanting to save it for the Afterlife Adventures book, but after this explosive self-realization I can't contain myself any longer. Lately I've been using my hypnagogic states when I lay down to imagine and explore activities Irene and I will be engaging in once together in the afterlife, along with what we want to experience it.  Included in this is my imagining afterlife "technologies" that would be joyful and delightful, like the "creative world experience generator" system I might have written about here before - I can't really remember. Anyway, it gives us the capacity to use a technological interface (which really appears more like a mystical interface out of a Dr. Strange movie) to, for example, change the world and sky around our home (the castle on an outcropping of rock by the ocean) to ...

Yesterday I got two separate confirmations that I can transition to having full experiences with Irene whether or not I die here first, and we can start living our afterlife experience even while I'm still here. I also got confirmation about some ideas I had while visualizing our afterlife, but I'm going to save the unveiling of those for my new book. Something I can say, though, is that I've learned that my expectations or visualizations of the afterlife have been tempered to some degree by unnecessary limitations.  What we can have, what we can do, how it can work - it doesn't have to be scaled down  in order to be "reasonable" or to fit into some kind of overall working construct. That's the difference between a cosmological model based on an external world reality and one based on experiential reality - where experience is the sum total of reality. A friend of mine recently sent me some links that I think presents this concept (what I have called the...

As most readers of this blog know, virtually every day since she crossed over Irene has drawn a version of this in the coffee I set out for her every morning: Sometimes it's more elaborate, very rarely it's something else.  This happens regardless of if the AC is on (a few feet from the coffee table), the ceiling fan, or if there is a stand fan blowing in the room.  The flower in her cup has played a significant role in other signs she has given me over the past 10 months.  Once when I told her that she could stop if she wanted, thinking it must be a natural phenomena and that it would continue, nothing appeared in her cup the next two days until I asked her to please continue.  She was proving to me that it was her. A few days ago I saw a hummingbird outside - one of her favorite birds.  Also, lately I've been deeply exploring our visualizations, which has become our main venue for interaction, for writing our afterlife adventure book. Early yesterday I...